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How to have a clean relationship
« on: August 23, 2014, 04:32:55 AM »

Remember that God’s Love is the ultimate.
Knowing the love God has for you means that
you do not have to seek fulfillment in how
anyone makes you feel (a weakness of human
love): the most perfect love comes from God,
and it is always yours. He will do much more
to fill the love-space than a person ever could.
Approach your dating relationship knowing that
God likes you and loves you, and there is
plenty room for wonders of love, marriage,
mature family love, i.e.: constancy (not
fickleness) thus enabling you to build and love
your own family, of course. (Christians: Always
remember He sent His son, Jesus , to die for
your sins.) Make sure you are strong in your
loving relationship with God. This means
knowing that He is always there to help you
along the way. Trust Him. Make God the most
important in your life. Make Him the love of
your life.
Know the ideal match for you. Date someone
that you would consider marrying. Choose a
person that has a similar desire for God, one
that will build you up in your faith. If you are
already in a relationship, positively encourage
one another in pursuing God. Help your
boyfriend or girlfriend to keep God the focus.
Understand that Christians are not to be
"unequally yolked" that is, if they are not
willing to accept the faith, the relationship
might have to be sacrificed.
Pray. Pray about your dating relationship. Give
everything over to God. Let God know that you
are asking His approval. Talk to God about the
problems that arise. Thank Him for the
opportunity to be in a relationship and the
happy times you experience. You can also pray
with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a good
way to help each other out with whatever
stresses life brings. By praying together, you
are experiencing God together. Though, it could
make the focus more about you two building
intimacy—still there is a tendency to bring out
one another's faults in prayer; therefore, avoid
prodding, interrogating, judging; instead, help
each other in order to build trust; love and
forgive each other as the Lord's Prayer models
for us.
Talk about God. Make an effort to bring God
into your conversations. Not only will it help in
keeping God on your minds, you will also find
out about each others beliefs. Talking about a
spiritual subject changes normal conversation
into one of eternal significance. Discussing God
also allows you to build up each others
knowledge and confidence.
Read the Bible. Keeping God’s words in your
heart helps you to remember the love and
promises He has for you. Try reading the Bible
together. It is fun, spiritual and good for
conversation. Different verses will help you
along the way in your relationship.
Get involved with Church. Make sure your
boyfriend or girlfriend and you are active in the
body of Christ. You will feel good about
sharing God’s love. He calls us to serve Him.
Be careful with physical affection. Hugs are
great. God created physical affection to be
good. But be careful in how much physical
permission you give one another. A relationship
can easily turn sinful if physical bonding occurs
too quickly. Everyone is different. But if you
feel guilty at all for actions, it may be good
indication that you are going too far. Avoid
physical actions that might cause lustful
thoughts (such as sitting on lap, laying on
each other or sensual kissing and massages).
Save sex for marriage. Talk about your
physical actions with each other, making sure
you are both comfortable and feeling great.
Understand what might be innocent to one or
another might very well be dangerous to you.
Show Christ’s love to each other. Make
sacrifices for each other. Watch a chick flick.
Go to a basketball game. Be willing to serve
one another. Put one another above
yourselves. Find how to show love to each
other. Use the love God has shown you and
bring it to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Bring out all of "The 'Fruit' of the Spirit":
notice it is not fruits, we are not to pick and
choose the ones we prefer. This will work to
relieve stress in relationships in this World of
Cheerfully realize this is a package—not
bits or pieces: "Love, joy, peace, long-
suffering (patience), gentleness (kindness),
goodness, meekness (gentleness), faith
(faithfulness) and temperance (self-
control)... Against such things there is no
law." , Galatians 5:22-23 KJV (parentheses
NIV). [1] Read those again and again...
Have Fun and Praise and Glorify God. Smile
and know that God is with you. Enjoy the life
that God has given the both of you. Whenever
you get the chance, praise God for whatever He
has poured into your life. Trust and know that
God has your back. He wants what is best for
the both of you.
Cherish your own personal God time. Make
sure you spend time alone with God. You need
moments of reading the Bible, journaling or
praying just between you and God. Since God
is your ultimate love, it is good to have that
time alone with Him.
Keep in mind the reality that God is real . While
having a special someone can bring great
happiness in this world, realizing the eternally
wonderful nature of God’s love is something
you do not want to miss. God is real. His love
is real. God is love. Realize that God is working
in your life right now. His forgiveness is real
and His promises are real. Give the love God
has given you to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
God’s love is perfect. Let Christ’s love reign in
your dating relationship. Let the love you have
for each other be a banner to the world
displaying God’s goodness. Remember though,
"You are not your own, you were bought at a
price" - therefore God must reign in your
relationships. We are called to be holy,
because He is holy. We might very well have to
"honor [our] father and mother, [our] wife and
children, [our] brothers and sisters--yes, even
[our] own life--"; our dating relationships are
no exception. Remember, as C.S. Lewis has
said, that love that becomes a god, becomes a
demon. Submit all your love, therefore, to the
one that is Love, and He, like a gardener, shall
prune our loves which are so fickle and
temporary by nature, into beautiful gardens
which we may share with all our relationships
including our dating relationships.




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